How much do my people/parts really NEED to be out?
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New York support group for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) / Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD)
How much do my people/parts really NEED to be out?
I guess until they are “done”. Done in the short term or the long term. Short term, I know there is a sense of being tired or done with being out – like they are out of words or emotion or need. They are done for a given day after several hours or so out.
In the long term – I suppose they will keep coming at points over time, until they are “done” here too.
It’s probably like asking “how much do you need to pee or throw-up?” …. when you gotta go, you gotta go – and when you need to throw-up, you throw-up. These aren’t really decisions – they just happen when they need to.
I think I asked this question though originally, because I’ve been purposely keeping everyone in. I’ve felt that I’ve had to. No choice if we want to survive right now. I feel there has been a great cost, but also that I’ve had no option. So I was wondering how much do I REALLY NEED to let them out? Especially now that I’ve found I have a little control over it. Actually, I don’t know if I have that much control. It may just as easily be that they are staying in hiding becuase they see that being out might cause more harm than good right now.
I don’t really know what’s going on exactly. It’s been hard.
well, with no host, whoever is out is always a part. and we’re really not sure about frequency or timing or stuff like that. some parts are around more at particular times, other parts at other times. i know that it’s unlikely i’ll go more than a day without a switch, but much more likely that any given part will be away or one of the ones in circulation… just kind of varies.
as for groups, i can go a week or two, i think, without at least some of the little kid parts really needing time out. that’s about the longest, and then they’ll just *be* out, regardless of whether it’s appropriate. so it’s better to pay attention to that, and make sure they get time when it’s appropriate.
teenagers and adults kind of come in and out interchangeably, although there were a good seven or eight months last year with no adults at all, and i’ve realized they don’t really come out that often even when things are pretty calm. some of that seven or eight months, looking back, there probably were times when the adults were out but not self-aware. that is changing some.