Alters at the Wrong Time
How do you handle alters coming out at the wrong times, such as at work?
For people with Dissociative Identity Disorder/Multiple Personality Disorder (DID/MPD)
How do you handle alters coming out at the wrong times, such as at work?
chariots Said,
January 25, 2010 @ 8:09 pm
I can usually feel a change coming – like getting an aura or something. Back when I was less stable, I used to squirm my way out of the workplace asap when I felt it coming. “I don’t feel well”…. “I gotta go”…
For the most part, I function well when I’m at work. Like the second I walk in the door I’m “there”. It tends to be harder to GET to work than it is once I’m there.
Amazingly, I’ve done pretty well with working, even if there were years that it was all I could do to manage to appear sane during work hours. I’m thankful it’s not too much of a battle now. I think my aliens know that they would suffer if they came out too. So they just don’t when I’m at work.
Jigsaw Analogy Said,
February 25, 2010 @ 10:38 pm
for me, it’s less about the little kids popping out than about the teenagers. the little kids tend to be more shy, and less likely to show up where they shouldn’t.
i suppose the main thing with my system is that we are rarely out on our own, and the little kids are almost never out on their own unless the older ones keeping an eye on things feels like it’s a good idea. so while whoever is trying to maintain control might get a vicious headache, that’s about the extent of it.
for us, a bigger issue has been getting comfortable with the idea of younger part having times when it’s actually appropriate for them to be out. looking back, i think that used to be how i was, before i knew about being multiple. and i’ve gotten more comfortable with that happening now, and it’s really been ok. the little kids aren’t really obvious, unless someone knows them already, but they can often be out even at times that i might have deemed “inappropriate” in the past.
but then, most of my parts have enough sense of decorum that they aren’t going to do things that really upset people outside, so that works in my favor.