Prove Yourself
Talk about any sense that you have, that you have to prove yourself to outsiders, or justify your existence.
New York support group for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) / Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD)
Talk about any sense that you have, that you have to prove yourself to outsiders, or justify your existence.
chariots Said,
May 19, 2010 @ 3:47 pm
Well, I think I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to meet others’ expectations, without really knowing what my own expectations were.
I think I’ve also tried not to make too much of a “dent” – meaning, make sure my existence doesn’t ruffle anyone’s feather’s too much, or get in the way, or cause someone else to have to do something. I notice this more as I live with someone who doesn’t seem to mind making dents everywhere.
I think I’ve spent lots of time stressing over whether I will let someone(s) down or help them, etc. So I’m probably trying to prove myself in there somewhere.
jigsaw analogy Said,
June 8, 2010 @ 7:16 am
i struggled for a long time with believing that i had to be different from how i am for people to accept me. mostly, it was about not needing help from people, and giving *them* lots of help.
what’s interesting is that i’ve realized over the past year or so that people actually seem to like me *better* when i am willing or able to accept help from them.
dustinthewind Said,
June 22, 2010 @ 9:05 pm
The message I got as a kid was “you need to be like us.” No validation of my own reality. I spent years filling other people’s expectations. I never took pride in my accomplishments because I was never really doing it for myself. Right now in T we are talking about reasonable expectations for myself, MY expectations, so I can choose to live how I want. This is really hard to do and it is scary. I’m not sure what I want or who I am.