i’ve been working on this one more. i guess for me the problem is that “conscious” thing. it’s hard, because in my system, it’s more like i have to *not* try, or else it doesn’t work. if i am relaxed and not thinking about it, i can usually hear what the other ones are saying, and we can talk. but if we try, particularly we older ones, then it just doesn’t happen. maybe we get self conscious or something, and we do it wrong. i don’t know.
one of the little ones was explaining it in therapy yesterday, and her example was that it’s like those magic eye pictures, the ones where you have to both relax your eyes and concentrate in order to see the picture. i just don’t quite know how to do that with communication. but we’re trying.
dustinthewind Said,
February 20, 2009 @ 7:14 am
I don’t, as much as they keep contact with me.
jigsaw analogy--ellis Said,
February 25, 2009 @ 12:42 pm
i’ve been working on this one more. i guess for me the problem is that “conscious” thing. it’s hard, because in my system, it’s more like i have to *not* try, or else it doesn’t work. if i am relaxed and not thinking about it, i can usually hear what the other ones are saying, and we can talk. but if we try, particularly we older ones, then it just doesn’t happen. maybe we get self conscious or something, and we do it wrong. i don’t know.
one of the little ones was explaining it in therapy yesterday, and her example was that it’s like those magic eye pictures, the ones where you have to both relax your eyes and concentrate in order to see the picture. i just don’t quite know how to do that with communication. but we’re trying.